Why am I angry?
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When I’m attached to a certain event or a person, I form a certain expectation. When the outcome doesn’t satisfy my expectation, I feel disappointed or angry.
I feel frustrated when it reached the limitation because of incompetence.
I feel angry when they didn’t do their best because of indifference or sticking to the status quo even if it could be done much better.
How to release anger
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Emotions are another form of energy. Strong emotions are like strong currents or tornados. Once I’m swept by them, it’s almost impossible to get out of them. The only way is finding a saving rope from another source. Connect to a new stream of energy and follow it.
Examples:
- Talking to someone who can expand my consciousness or show me another perspective.
- Reading a book or listening to an audiobook which expand my perspective.
- Following guided meditation
- Or connecting to a higher source of energy through meditation.
Whatever I choose, I focus my consciousness on the new energy stream. Then, I get out of the strong current of emotion and release anger.
Sometimes, I still hang around the roaring current even if the saving rope just came next to me. For instance, I turn on an audiobook, but I don’t listen to it. My thought still races on the current of anger. In that case, the rope itself can’t save me. Without my decision to get out of it and shifting my focus to the new energy stream, I can’t win this battle. The more fighting in the current, the deeper I get stuck and exhausted.
Eventually, it’s me who can save me.
How to prevent the situation that makes me angry
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Once I get out of the strong current, I can build stronger muscles to manage my emotions. I can handle the situation better next time.
Then, I can decide if I should lower my expectation or release my attachment to the event or the person. If I release my attachment, how much will I release? 30%? 70%? Or completely release attachment?
Releasing attachment and being indifferent are different. Without being indifferent, I release attachment. It’s an art of life that I’m still practicing.
