Q. When I talk to someone, I often come to face situations where I can’t control my anger and it becomes an obstacle. I think that it is from the putting up my pride. How can I stay calm?
A. Being angry means that it is said that you are smart. You have to know the principle of what invokes your anger. You get angry because you are smart. Then, why are the smart people getting angry? It means that you have no answer even if you are smart. Therefore, you can not solve the problem.
Smart people become angry if they can not solve the problem. If smart people did something really clever, they would not be angry because they could handle every problem.
You get angry because you have no answer nor power to solve the problem even if you are smart.
This is what makes you different from your teacher. If you ask me something, I would solve it all and organize it. Then, would there be anything that I should be angry about?
However, smart people get angry because they are trying to answer the question when they do not know the answer. This is the height of folly.
Then, what should you do not to get angry? You must realize how foolish you are. How can you learn to recognize and work this out?
What should you do not to get angry?
You have to think “Am I truly a smart person when I can not solve the given problems? Isn’t it because I am not smart enough? It’s because of my stupidity that I’m so frustrated. What should I do now? I have to study me.” Then, you have to kneel down. You must lower yourself.
You cannot live without getting angry as long as you hold your head up high. I mean this.
If someone who is not competent enough tries to be a superior, he will, of course, run into problems. Then, when he cannot solve the problems, he would get angry unless he lowers himself.
A person with great energy can see problems, but if he does not know how to manage it right, he would go crazy.
Obviously, he who gets angry is a man of great energy. When a person with great energy is not equipped with ability, he can not solve what comes before him, so he can not benefit people widely. A person with great energy can see problems, but if he does not know how to manage it right, he would go crazy.
“How can a man who can not benefit others be called a superior?” This can’t be true.
“I may have come to this world with great energy, but it makes me feel frustrated because I did not fulfill my ability. So, once again, I should be cautious, and lower myself (be humble) to study from now on.”
“I may have come to this world with great energy, but it makes me feel frustrated because I did not fulfill my ability. So, I should lower myself (be humble) to study from now on.”
At this point, you are now entering into practicing asceticism. There are two ways to practice asceticism; an easy way and a hard way.
Practicing asceticism in your daily life and lowering yourself is the easy self-discipline. By contrast, the hard one is to be harsh on yourself and do penance to correct your contradictions although it is hard.
So, people with a great deal of enlightenment have chosen the hard one while the others with normal enlightenment have chosen the easy way as they live up to their lives tenderly and handle what they have to do.
Thus, when a greatly enlighten master comes out, you act while serving him to get lessons. This is the way you can lower yourself. So, you reach nirvana accumulating virtue deeds with him. This is how it works. Do you understand? (Yes.)